Trying To Love One Feature When You Hate What’s In The Mirror

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Name one physical feature that you like about yourself. For some, this may be an easy question. For a lot, and I feel it would be mostly woman, this question scares us. This scariness has no boundaries.  It can affect anyone, no matter age, weight, race, etc. Unless you are extremely in confident in your own skin, or a Victoria Secret model, you might struggle thinking of an answer. For me, it’s my hair.

I wish I could say it was my arms, while I don’t think there is anything noticeable I hate about my arms, they’re just arms. What about my legs? No, they are super pale, have veins all over them and my knees look really big. Can a knee even be big? My stomach? Oh, hell to the no. My face, it used to be. Growing up I always had great skin. I would only get one breakout during “that time of the month” and had a Cristi Brinkley-esqu beauty mark on my face. Not long after I got married, I developed rosacea. Then, a year I started breaking out bad around my jawline and near my glands on my neck. So I’ll blame my husband for that one. J/K!

 

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My Favorite Physical Feature

I have always viewed my hair is another accessory. It doesn’t bother me to cut it really short or color it any color. You can always change the color and if it’s too short, it will grow back. Growing up in the mid to late 80’s and early 90’s, my mom was all about perming my hair. I remember once having a head full of curlers at the salon and barely being able to hold my head up because it was so heavy. Then there was my Harry Potter phase. Now, this was long before Harry Potter existed and my aunt was going to cosmetology school. I had the shortest hair yet still was able to have the big poofy bangs. Throw in the fact that I needed glasses and I was the female version of Harry.

 

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I’m up for almost anything when it comes to my hair. At some point, before I am long gone, I want to try the aqua mermaid color. Just once so that I can say I tried it. Though I will say, since having my daughter I’ve seen a couple grey’s sprout out. Not sure why my hair is turning on me this way. I don’t know what it is about my hair that has always had my heart. Maybe because it’s the closest thing as to  “perfect” as I could get. I may not have been able to please people with my weight, but I could please them with my hair.

 

Hating The Rest

I absolutely hate the rest of my body. We are in this world where we are told to love yourselves as you are and to be kind to your body. I will never be able to do that, and I am fine with that. I have my own baggage for why I don’t like my body and that has no reflection on someone else. There is nothing wrong with not liking something about yourself and I am not going to fake it to make other people happy. If someone told me they don’t like a certain part of them, I would tell them that they are not alone. That it’s ok. We are complex beings made up of things that we like and don’t like. I think you can accept the thing you wish you can change, but that doesn’t mean you have to love it.

 

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It is ok to not love everything about yourself. These can be physical features or behaviors. We are not perfect people. While I may not like how big my stomach is, I don’t hide away. I still love to wear bright colors and feel sexy. I’ve spent hours upon hours, trying on clothes to see how they fit, feel and look. If I don’t feel good in something, I won’t wear it. I can hate the shape of my body, but still love putting great clothes on it.

 

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10 Comments

  1. March 15, 2020 / 11:14 pm

    Love the inspo and outfit here! Thanks for sharing gf 🙂

    • jamielynn0709
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      March 17, 2020 / 5:21 pm

      Thank you so much!

  2. March 16, 2020 / 6:10 pm

    Really vulnerable post, Jamie. And one I think we can all relate to. I’m so self-conscious about my soft jawline. So wish I’d gotten a chin implant or something when I was younger. And I don’t really know my way around beauty products and hairstyling. And cellulite. All bad, bad, bad. I like that I have small feet! And a fairly big smile. Sad to think that my chin self-consiousness comes from a comment that an 8th grader made to me when I was in 7th grade. I still think about that bitch at least once a week or two. But it saddens me more that I let someone that I haven’t seen since then so much power over my life these many years. Learning to love yourself, flaws and all is a long tedious process but I’ll keep chipping away at that for as long as I have to. Hope you will as well!

    • jamielynn0709
      Author
      March 17, 2020 / 5:22 pm

      I know every woman has something she didn’t like. I wish we weren’t wired this way. Also, I can’t imagine you saying a bad word!

  3. March 20, 2020 / 10:51 am

    I absolutely love love love this post. Your vulnerability is extremely inspiring babe <3

    • jamielynn0709
      Author
      March 31, 2020 / 9:56 am

      Thank you so much!

    • jamielynn0709
      Author
      March 31, 2020 / 9:58 am

      Awe thank you! Those pesky grey hairs are starting to show!

  4. March 21, 2020 / 1:52 pm

    As much as I love reading how people have embraced all of their flaws, it’s refreshing to know that I’m not the only one who will never get to that point. The part of your post that really stuck with me is the importance of wearing clothes that make you feel great. One of my hardest lessons to learn was to let go of clothes that don’t fit me anymore, and therefore just make me feel worse about myself. If it doesn’t fit or isn’t comfortable, don’t wear it! It’s just not worth it.

    • jamielynn0709
      Author
      March 31, 2020 / 9:59 am

      Thank you so much! It’s awesome that you were able to pinpoint that behavior and change it to fit with your own way of thinking and feeling!!!

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