Last weekend, I attended the first annual Style Collective Conference. The Style Collective Conference is a blogger conference for female fashion and lifestyle bloggers. As soon as it was announced that there would be a blogger conference I told my hubby I HAD to go. There was no question about it. I knew there would be tons for me to learn, plus the opportunity to meet some of the other awesome blogger babes of Style Collective. Even though I consider myself an introvert, I wanted to challenge myself and get out of my comfort zone to take full advantage of this amazing opportunity.
I learned so much, that I want to share the personal growth I went through during that weekend. The knowledge I gained over the weekend not only helped me as a blogger, but also as a person. For this reason, I am inviting you to go through some portions of the blogger activities I went through. There is so much I want to talk about that I will be splitting this up into a two or three part series. So find a comfy spot, get some popcorn and join me as I take you through the one weekend that left me feeling the most empowered, valued and inspired I have ever felt in my life.
Finding My Authentic Self Blogging Workshop Part 1
The founder of Style Collective, Annie Spano, hosted the first blogging workshop. This blogging workshop focused on building our brand and discovering our authentic leadership. I don’t know if she intended this blogger conference to be deep and emotional, but as we started going through the exercises it got emotional for me. I started to think about my WHY. What was the reason I wanted to start blogging to begin with? Yes, I love fashion but it isn’t just about showing off clothes.
Activity 1: Self-Awareness and Your Life Story
There are three questions for you to answer in this first activity. These were the questions that got me…..hard!
- What are your crucibles?
- What are your greatest moments of pride?
- How have these experiences shaped what’s most important to you?
All through my childhood and young adult life I never thought that I could really get into fashion and style like girls and woman who were smaller size than me. Being larger than a size 10/12, I always knew that I would be stuck with wearing things because you know, “it’s frowned upon to go out in the world naked and all.” I looked back through my life and thought about my “crucibles” as Annie called them. Then I started to think about my greatest moments of pride.
The transition I took from the constant negativity about weight I had, to having my daughter and knowing that I will do everything in my power to make sure she doesn’t feel the way I did growing up brought on the water works. I was trying so hard not to cry but thinking of that little girl I have back home was too strong. It is important to me that she feels and knows that she is worthy of anything and everything she wants out life. That doesn’t mean she shouldn’t have to work for the things she wants. Where I am working so hard everyday to accept this idea that I am worthy, I want her growing up never doubting that.
” Know exactly why you started because when you are crying for two hours in a bathroom and want to give up, your ‘why’ will center you and help you move past the difficult times. The struggle is temporary and your legacy is forever.”- Annie Spano, Founder And CEO Of Style Collective
Finding My Authentic Self Blogging Workshop Part 2
Next on this blogging workshop we started to look at what our core values are. These values represent the importance of things that matter to us. They should give you direction, help you become self aware, allow for self disciple and express feelings. We were given a list and asked to pick the five the most resonated with us. My top five came down to love, trustworthy, compassion, honesty, and community.
For the last part of the workshop we worked on our mission statements. Through my mission statement, I am answering questions like “What is the legacy I am leaving behind?” and “What is the change I want to seek for the future?”. So what are the desired actions I want to take place, who do I want to impact and how will I do that? I know that I want to promote two main things: the feeling of worthy-ness and not to settle.
I want to connect with anyone who feels that they are not worthy, or don’t deserve something. This is how I felt most of the time growing up and unfortunately it took me a very long time to learn that this is not the case. I still have days where I may slip slightly backwards, but everyday I am climbing further and further up to the light. I want to connect with women who feel like they have to settle in what they are wearing because they just need to be wearing clothes.
My Mission and Vision
My mission is to bring about the knowledge that, no matter what, you are worthy and deserve nothing less than best. I believe everyone, no matter the size, has the right to feel amazing. I foresee a world where there is no “plus size”, just clothing and I envision young woman and girls loving themselves and each other.
Activity 2: Finding Your Purpose
Take a few minutes and really think about these questions and jot your answers down. Even if you are not a blogger, these questions are great for anyone who owns their own business and can be applied to someone who works for another company.
- What is a cause you can stand up for? How can you educate followers and inspire action?
- In what ways can you coach others and provide guidance?
- What risks do you need to take to challenge the process?
- How can you inspire a shared vision?
- What are the ways that you can foster community and collaboration?
- How can you be a role model for others who believe in your vision?
- In what ways can you show passion for your and compassion for others?
Thinking about this new found mission I have, we were asked what is a cause we can stand up for. I want to help women through the transition of internal to external love and acceptance. Help them realize they are more than their size and they deserve to look and feel amazing. I know that is going to be a growth we all work on together. Lead by example right? I need to start by loving myself. If they see me loving myself, they can learn to love themselves. The same goes with my daughter.
“Your future success is already inside you; stay positive, work hard, make it happen.”-Keke, Founder of Style Your Selfie
After we finished up the first blogging workshop, I felt so empowered in this new direction I wanted to take. I didn’t want the weekend to end. Was the weekend really going to have to end? Couldn’t I just stay in this beautiful space with these amazing women who have lifted me up so much already? While I wanted to get back to my little family, I knew I was going to have to find a way to bring this feeling back home with me. This blogger conference has exceeded my expectations and it was only lunch time on the first day!
This was just the first blogging workshop and there were still three more to come. So what else did I discover over the weekend? Make sure to subscribe so you can get notified when the next installment in this series is released. Also, for a more behind the scenes look of the weekend, head over to my YouTube channel for a vlog of the weekend. I also want you to check out some posts about the blogger conference from some of my amazing Style Collective Sisters, Gigi over at Fashology. and Kayra Merrillis at Kayramerrillis.com.
If you are a fellow boss babe I would love to have you as a Style Collective sister!